What's Going On Here?

Hi Everyone!

As you may have noticed, there are a few changes on my blog site.  As soon as I learned how to add pages to my existing blog, my imagination kicked in.  I thought of all kinds of different ways I could connect with you and share even more aspects of my life.  The hope being that you would share your life with me in turn and we can all grow and support one another.  If you look at the top of the page you will notice some new tabs.  Let me explain more about them.

DEAR PAT:   I dedicate this page to all my dear readers.  Are you going through a rough spot in your relationship with your spouse, child, parent, etc.?  Do you find yourself questioning lifelong beliefs, and now you are having trouble finding where they fit?  
Sometimes it helps to get a 'fresh look' at the challenge through the eyes of someone who is not directly involved in all the drama.  That is why I have created this page.  I would like to be those 'fresh eyes' for you.  

HOW'D SHE DO THAT?  For the first time in my life, I have lost 80 pounds and KEPT IT OFF!  I am very excited about this, as you can well imagine.  And I did not have to starve myself for the weight to melt off!  (I didn't exercise my butt off either!)  On this page I will share my 'secret'.  Also I will share wonderful, new, healthy recipes, and teach you how to transform some of your favorite recipes into delicious dishes you can feel good about eating! Plus, I would love to hear from YOU!  What are some of your favorite recipes?  What have you done successfully to release weight; or if you feel you've tried everything and nothing worked, perhaps we can partner together to find and release your block regarding weight loss and get back on track. 

SERVICES:  Very soon I will launch my new Health Coaching business!  That's right!  I've found a powerful way to help my clients once and for all find the answers to all their challenges!  Using the internet, email and tele-conferences, we will work together to re-adjust what has become imbalanced in your life so that once again you can be the joyful, vibrant, creative, and loving person you really are.  Say good bye to fear, weight woes, dis-empowerment, and depression forever!  Watch for a special offer for the first 10 people to sign up for coaching coming soon.

ABOUT ME:  Who am I?  Where did I come from and why have I decided to do what I'm doing?  What makes me qualified to do what I'm doing?  After reading about me, if you still have some unanswered questions, please feel free to ask.  I am an open book.  I hide nothing because I live in the light where no shadows can lurk. 


So, Welcome to my new site!  I hope we can share information and experiences for the highest benefit of us all.  Look around; and thank you a head of time for sharing my blog with your friends.  Talk to you soon!

What Did You Say?

Have you ever noticed when you're sick or feeling under the weather that it only takes an innocent comment from a well-meaning friend or loved one to make you feel even worse?  Why is that?  How can those that love you the most very unintentionally make you feel worse?  It only takes four little words to accomplish this feat and those words are ... 

"How are you feeling?"

We are all taught from a very young age that this is the question you ask to show your love and concern for the poor individual who is under the weather.  Oh yes, and don't forget to wrinkle your forehead and knit your brows together and position your head in just the right downward slant as to convey the correct amount of concern.  


The truth of the matter is, all that the well-meaning question does for the 'sick' individual is focus his attention on the pain and sickness!  The mind does an immediate scan to determine what the answer is to the question.  After all, we must be honest!  We don't want people to think we are feeling good if we really are not!  So, now since my mind is once again focused on the sickness, what is it I am creating in my life?  That's right; more sickness! 


So how DO we handle that not-very-well-thought-out question?  You don't want to lie, yet you don't want to draw more sickness to yourself, so recently I've been taking my cues from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks - simply reply "irrelevant".  So it sounds something like this:  


(Well-meaning soul (WMS))  "Hi Pat, how are you feeling?"  
(Me)  "It's irrelevant"
(WMS)"What?"  
(Me)  "It's really irrelevant how I feel either good or bad."
(WMS)  "What do you mean?" (sounding a little defensive).
(Me)  "I mean it really doesn't matter how my physical body is feeling right now.  What DOES matter is where I'm going.  What does matter is how beautiful today is and what wonderful and exciting adventures we are having in our lives right now and how because of that attention to so much positivity and beauty, I am drawing more and more of that to my life."


But you may ask, isn't that looking at life through rose colored glasses instead of facing the reality of my situation right here and now?  My answer is "maybe so", but I would much rather think about what I see through those glasses than focus on the reality happening in my physical body right now.  I truly believe focusing on that positive view will bring more wellness into my life.  


Now that I'm on the other end of that question, I certainly will be careful about what I'm directing my friend's attention to when they are ill.  What kind of questions can we ask our under the weather friend's to actually help them raise their vibration up from the vibration of illness?  What are some of your ideas?

The Power Of Words

Lately I've noticed how important it is that I choose my words wisely.  I've noticed that I have the ability to help or hurt an individual just by the words I choose.

It's just as easy to encourage someone in the time of their deepest need or in a matter of seconds devastate that person with the choice of the wrong words.

We can all point to a time in our childhood when words made a total difference in the direction our lives went.  A parent can innocently joke with a child and  because of the words they chose to use, that child feels worthless.  Before long, the child believes the 'joke' and they begin to believe they are nothing.  Whereas if a parent gave that child words of encouragement and love, they can watch that child become anything he/she can dream of becoming in this lifetime.

As everyone knows, my challenge is breast cancer, but I truly believe that I've already beat it and now I'm just waiting for the physical manifestation. However, one misplaced remark by someone close to me sent me spiraling down into the pits. She simply stated that a friend of hers had died of cancer but looked me directly in the eye and said to me, "and she believed that she would get well too".  That comment devastated me for days.  This was a person I thought at least was starting to care about me, yet when she said those nine little words it tore my heart open.  Suddenly I felt, once again, her total disdain for me and I allowed it to affect my life.  It took a lot of meditating and some patience and kindness from my dear husband but I finally saw the light in her and understood that that's all she knew.

Sometimes in our lives we are more vulnerable to what people say than at other times.  The challenge is to rise above those words and know the truth about ourselves; that we are divine individuals who have come into this lifetime to manifest our reality.  When we know the truth about ourselves,  no words can hurt us.  

The upside of this whole conversation is that I now understand how much our words impact those we come in contact with.  Sometimes we think we are saying something just out of the blue but have no idea that it can devastate an individual.  

Have you had instance where perhaps a very innocent statement has devastated or encouraged you?  For me, it's important to be mindful of every word that comes out of my mouth and make sure that it's something that is uplifting and kind.  That includes how I talk to myself, which is perhaps the hardest person to be kind and uplifting to.   I look at this as just another lesson in unconditional love and I thank the Universe for setting the circumstances together for me to learn.